Heard a very interesting story in one of the TED talks.
A man left his three children with 17 camels. According to the will first son gets half of the camels, second son gets third of the camels and the youngest gets ninth of the camels. Three sons got into negotiations, realizing they cannot split without killing the camels they started to argue and finally in desperation they consulted a wise old women.
Wise old women thought about their problem for long time and finally she came back and said, I don’t know if I can help, but at least if you want you can have my camel.
So now they had 18 camels….
First son took his half, half of 18 is 9; Second son took his third, third of 18 is 6; finally youngest took his ninth, ninth of 18 is 2 and yet the total was only 17 and there was one camel left over which they gave it back to old wise women.
The moral of the story is every problem or conflict can be resolved with a fresh look. Every conflict has two sides but it’s the third side ‘us’ who should participate in resolving the conflict.